Sunday, January 1, 2012

Happy New Year! AKA: My Top 5 Goals for 2012

The new year has started out a beautiful sunny day. This is my good omen for 2012. The view of the hills from my window is gorgeous. Little finches are flitting from branch to branch in the trees just outside my window. Peeping, peeping, peeping. Happy. Excited. After all it is a new year. My old mister cat is warming himself in the sun spot on the edge of my bed. Grumpy but satisfied. The misses cat has made herself a bed on my treadle table and is sleeping soundly. Content. And my boy, sleeping heavily after staying up all night playing computer games. Happy.

The beauty of this morning has helped me clear my head and focus on 2012. I always have resolutions. Tons and tons and tons. I make them daily, weekly, monthly. I make resolutions when the situation calls for it but, for me, goals are a little different. Goals are something to be accomplished whereas resolutions can be broken or changed. They are more flexible and have less of a sense of personal failure if not accomplished. Both are necessary and support my grand plans however, I need the flexibility of my resolutions in order to support my goals.

The goals I have for 2012 are the foundation for the second half of my life. I'll be explaining more on my grand plan later cause it's still all in my head and not sketched out on paper. Hummm...that leads me to my first goal:

AG's Top Five Goals and One Resolution for 2012:

1) Visualize, Focus, and Write down where and who I want to be in 3-5 years from now. I see myself moving to another state and establishing a small craft business. 2012 is the year to start the process to make that goal a reality.

2) To write daily. Either here or on my craft blog: MelindaKayToday!

3) Let it go! As part of my epiphanies of 2011 I realize that holding on to issues or things only block my progress. It doesn't mean I have to let people walk all over me. It's not an either/or situation. Either I have my gosh darn principles or I have to let people mow me down. It's not. It's a matter of taking each situation and deciding if I really need to allow it to take up space in my mind and my emotions. 'Cause you know what...I might not always be right!

4) Implement my business goals. This is my year of discovery. I have come to the conclusion that the difference between me and those running a business is the fact that they are doing it. The SBA has online classes for business plans and I purchased the book Craft, Inc. with the supporting business planner by Meg Mateo Ilasco. I have the tools.

5) Support my boy. I love my son more than I can express by written word. It's time he starts the process of creating his own life. He has goals and plans that stagger my little pea brain. However, he has OCD that causes him pain and suffering which impedes his progress. Is this his life lesson he needs to overcome? Is this part of my life lesson to be of guidance and support? Do I push my little bird out of the nest or let him jump all by himself?

2012 Resolution: Document my progress through my blogs and with pictures. PICTURES, Pictures, pictures! I don't take good pictures but I'm gong to learn.

I sincerely wish you all the best in 2012,

AG

Saturday, December 31, 2011

It's the Eve of Something New!

With 2012 knocking on my door I have the feeling of butterflies in my tummy. It's just like opening the door to a first date. As I step into the new year I realize 2011 serves as the ground beneath my feet.

Hummm...wow, that seems to be a little over the top but what can I say? It's how I feel. I have loads of things to accomplish in the next few years and this means letting go of old concepts, ideas, things, and perceptions that can impede my progress.

I am no longer a wife, my child is an adult, and I've gone as far as I'm going to go workwise. Though I'm still a mom it's different when your kid is an adult. The worries are the same (if not more) but you have to take a step back and let them figure things out on their own. Sometimes you have to push and sometimes you have to let them push back. Sigh. Long gone are the days when all I needed to do was wrap my arms around my child and kiss away the horrors of the world. Now, it's a hug and letting him know I'm always there for him no matter what. He always has a place of unconditional love.

Over the last year I had my greatest epiphanies to date:

#1: GET OVER IT! Yeah, that's it. Get over it. I came to terms with the fact that I'm 50, the past isn't going to change, and  I'm not changing anyone's ideas or perceptions of anything.

#2: I'M NOT ALWAYS RIGHT! Go figure on that one: I'm not always right. The only thing I can know for sure is what is right for me and boy, can that change in a heartbeat too. Some will be okay with it and others won't however...

My last big epiphany:


#3: IT'S NOT MY PROBLEM! Yup, that's it! Not my problem. Let it go. If it's not hurting anyone or anything who really cares? If you can't change or replace it...then let it go!

I have enough confidence in myself to know that I'm old enough, experienced enough, and kind enough to be able to apply my new life laws without hurting anyone or myself. Well, at least keeping things it to minimal damage if the situation calls for it. I know I'm not giving myself free reign to mow people down with self-righteous rhetoric but rather to use my insights as a way to peacefully let things go or let them be. I think this is called being an adult.

My goal for 2012 is to resonate in the harmony of others and, if I find I can't, let it go and be joyful.

Happy 2012  to you!